I’ve been writing and rewriting this post because the actual date of this event has been kind of up in the air, especially with all the summer activities that have kept me in Maryland. But, I figured there wasn’t a better time to share as I’m up in New York City for the week! This may or may not be a surprise to some of you, butttttt after one failed attempt last summer and many train rides later, I’m officially official and have moved to New York City with my future hubby.
We’re so excited for this next chapter and I can’t wait to see how God uses this time between us to grow us individually and together. I’m excited, nervous, and a little bit home sick, but we both feel that this is the right thing for us and can’t wait to get to finally get the time together that we’ve been wishing for over the past two years.
Speaking of the past two years, It would be wrong not touch on them. Y’all long distance (no matter how often you see each other or how far the distance) can be really hard and every situation and relationship has it’s own struggles. I admire other women as they’ve told me about their significant other being gone for months at a time without seeing each other – I can’t imagine. We’re fortunate that we were able to see each other as often as we did, there is no doubt about that. Even so, I feel like I learned a lot about who I am as a person, who we are as a couple, a few things about getting through the distance.
Talk Distraction Free
Both Travis and I are guilty for being on the phone with each other at night after our work days and we just end up scrolling through social media, barely talking. It can be difficult after a long day to come home and want to talk on the phone for an hour or two to catch up on what you missed. One thing we started doing was talking to each other distraction free on the phone. That meant not opening Facebook or Instagram when the other person was talking and being half present. It made a difference in the quality of our conversations (even when we were sleepy) and made us feel more connected to one another even though we were apart.
Trust One Another
This one is Travis’ and I totally agree with him. If you don’t trust one another through the distance your mind can start playing games on you. Bottom line, you have to trust the person your with. There were plenty of times where I would be out late or he would be and we never let those evenings get the best of us in our minds. It’s completely normal to go out and do things apart, even when you live in the same state, and that is how we looked at things.
Make the Most Of Your Time Together
With the little time you do get to spend with your significant other, make the most it! For us, that could have simply been going out to dinner just the two of us and catching up or spending a night in together watching movies. There were a lot of weekends we went away together because we needed that time to connect and be alone too. Of course, there were many weekends spent with friends and family and those were just as fun. Whatever it was we were doing in those times together, it really only mattered we were getting to spend the time with one another!
Love Each Other Through It
At the end of the day distance in a relationship is tough. You aren’t always on the same schedule, the time apart can almost become too routine, and sometimes there seems to be no end in sight. The most important thing to remember through the length of a long distance relationship is why you are together. For us, we knew we loved each other so much that the distance was worth it and eventually we knew we would get to be together. There were days that were challenging, together and separately, but we decided to love through the good times and the tough ones and make it through it as one.
I’m very grateful for everything we’ve been able to experience in the past couple of years and what it’s taught me about myself and us as a couple. BUTTTTT, I am ready to say gooodbyeeee to having the distance between us and ready to spend time together and create new memories here (for however long we should end up staying). It’s going to be great chapter! 🙂
(We’ve got a lot going on over the next couple months and I’ll be back and forth between NYC and home a good amount. Come fall you’ll get a lot more of me, Travis, and NYC when our schedules are a little more routine.)